Jealousy Problems: Does it Destroy Love?

The answer to that question is that yes, literally jealousy can destroy love in a relationship. This applies to both the jealous person and the victim of the jealousy as this destructive emotion has the power to damage and break up a relationship. Insecurity is the root of jealous feelings and these feelings can be very addictive as well as full of powerful, raw emotions.

Jealousy problems frequently happen to two people in a relationship. And if the issue is not addressed early on in the relationship, typical control issues and problems may start when accusations based on real or imagined suspicious behavior by the other partner. These worries blossom could blossom into an obsessive type of jealousy that creates problems with both partners if the issues are not addressed right away.

When there is the threat of losing a loved one many people let go of rational thought and dive deep into very powerful emotions they can’t always control. These emotions are extreme anger, fear of losing control, and unhealed pain from past losses. Some of it is also learned behavior experienced while growing up with family such as parents or relatives. Whatever the case may be, these untamed emotions hurt and frighten both the jealous person and the person that is the victim of the jealousy.

The negative association to jealousy is that it hurts and destroys the love between two people in relationship. Most people in a committed relationship love each other and do not want to destroy that special bond and love between each other. Remember: jealousy is not proof that a relationship is built on love. The addictive feeling can literally take over a relationship so that one of the partners begins to lose love and desire for the other partner. There is nothing positive and no good can come from angry, controlling behavior except that in the long run, both partners will eventually break up as a result—if the jealousy problems are not addressed.

When you think that your partner has gone overboard in accusations that seem overly suspicious or paranoid, it’s time the you seek professional help. It’s common that the jealous person may focus on being over possessive that has paranoid and suspicious accusations that going along with it. If your partner will not go, then you should make an appointment for yourself first. An experienced counselor or psychologist that deal with relationships will be able to help you. As a prospective client, interview the counselor first-if they do not seem to have a good grasp of your situation, keep trying to find someone else you can resonate with.

Many average relationships will experience some healthy insecurity and anxiety issues that is normal and typical of most relationships. Once these insecurity issues cross the line with uncalled for accusations, uncontrolled emotion, and constant scrutiny of your activities—then you probably have a problem. If your partner is overly concerned with you by constant phone calls, emails, or texting, then you have reason to …

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