Every dating relationship has its pros and cons. Long-distance dating has its own specific set of complications and rewards, in addition to those offered by other relationships. Long-distance dating is not for everyone, and more than half of these relationships end before six months is up. But the relationships that do last and are able to make it work are all the stronger.
Who Can Be in a Long-Distance Dating Relationship?
Many internet relationships are long-distance, but other relationships can be, too. Have you met someone through a friend who lived far away? Did your boyfriend get transferred to another office, in another state for a year or permanently? Is your girlfriend studying abroad in a foreign country? Is your husband starting a job while you and the kids sell the house in another state? Is your significant other in the military and deployed to another country? All these relationships are long-distance, whether or not you’re dating. Dating, however, makes the already-complicated long-distance relationship that much more complicated.
What Are Some Cons of Long Distance Relationships?
As previously mentioned, long-distance relationships have their own set of cons, completely unrelated to standard dating difficulties. The truth is, these affect everyone differently. Not everyone will see these as cons, some they won’t bother at all. Other people have a whole other set of problems that come from long-distance dating.
*You don’t get to see one another every day. Yeah, web cams definitely make this more possible, but seeing the person you’re dating over a screen is definitely different than seeing him or her in person.
*You might not get to talk every day. If you’re in a long-distance military relationship with someone, you certainly won’t get to talk on the phone every day. Maybe not even every week.
*Dating relationships between men and women are hard because different genders process things differently. Those problems are far more complicated when you can’t see the person you’re dating and work through them. He or she might think things are okay when they’re not.
*You don’t know where the other person is or who the person you’re dating is spending time with. Some people are okay with this, they trust the person they’re dating. For other people, this is a huge problem. Note: If you don’t trust the other person or they can’t trust you, a long-distance relationship probably won’t be successful.
*When you spend time together again, it will be awkward at first. You’ll have to remember or figure out what is important to the other person and how to make one another happy and satisfied.
What Are Some Pros of Long-Distance Relationships?
For all those cons, there are definitely many more pros. A dating relationship won’t succeed if there aren’t any rewards. It may not sound like it, but there are several advantages to long-distance dating.
*You get to spend time with your friends. You know those people who are in a dating relationship and never see anyone except their significant other? Not you. You get to enjoy your friends and spend time (in a way) with the person you’re dating.
*You develop trust for the other person. You learn that you can trust the other person.
*You develop your personal communication skills. The other person isn’t there sharing experiences with you, so the only way to share the things going on in your life with the person you’re dating is to tell him or her about them. And they’ll want to know what’s going on in your life as much as you want to know what’s going on in theirs. This communication will also strengthen your trust in one another and bring you closer.
*Problem-Resolution. Yes, you’ll have problems, but you’ll learn how to work through them. You’ll need to make sure you understand one another and are expressing yourself sufficiently.
* You’ll find yourself. In most relationships, especially early ones, one person takes on the characteristics, likes or dislikes of the person you’re dating. That’s not a problem when you’re long-distance.
*After being apart, your dating relationship together will be much better. You can apply the skills you’ve learned to other areas of your life and other relationships, as well.